Cautions!

We have touched on some “introductory topics” and hopefully convinced you that Inner Healing/Heart Healing IS not only POSSIBLE, but PROBABLE, and BENEFICIAL.

So at this point, we should also equip you with some “cautions”

Whether you are here for healing yourself, or  to learn how to bring healing to others, “Cautions” are necessary.  Think about driving down the highway…or even your neighborhood street.  When you see a yellow blinking stop light, or a flashing highway sign, or a tow truck on the side of the road with the “no shoulder” lights- for your safety and the safety of others, you obey those signs.’

The same applies to heart healing.

Following these caution signs will keep you and those around you (who you are ministering to) safe and prevent us from causing additional harm.

The first is the No Blame caution sign.  As you learn to see wounds, there may be a tendency to blame the person or people who wounded you.  Heart healing is about YOU.  Not  THEM.  Forgiveness is for YOU not THEM.  This first caution is paramount.  Do not let the Blame Game take over and derail your healing  process.  Let Holy Spirit guide you and heal you.  Let Holy Spirit walk you through forgiveness to relief and deeper healing.  This is for YOU.  About YOU.  It is not a time to tell others how it “was their fault”, even though it was (or may have been).  Grab hold of YOUR healing, your relief.  Let Holy Spirit deal with them.

During the healing process, another caution you may come across is a STOP sign.  This may be your own stop sign, or one someone else has put up.  You will see it.  You are very familiar with this sign.  Observe it.  Honor it.  When my sister came to visit, I recognized a wound of “never being good enough” and an expectation that “no one will think I can do it” which led to her “never asking for help” even when it was painfully obvious that it was a “2 or even 3-person job”.  But being aware of this caution, when I saw this, and she “needed” help with a job, but would not ask, in fact, pushed me away before I could even offer support, I honored that  STOP sign and stepped back.  A few days later, she saw the wound herself, and the ensuing judgment and expectation.  We prayed through them, and brought relief and freedom.  If I had plowed through that STOP sign, I might have created a greater distance between my sister and myself, and not been able to later pray for her healing because I had caused her additional harm.

Another Caution to be aware of is “no navel gazing”.  There is no need to “dig things up” (or out- no belly button lint needed).  Holy Spirit is faithful to bring to your attention the wounds or other processes that it is in His timing to heal and bring freedom to.  Especially at the beginning of your healing journey, let Holy Spirit be your guide.  PPray through the obvious things that you see and the less obvious things that He brings up.  There is no need to go person by person or year by year and “dig up” all of the painful memories.  (And also remember here the No Blame caution also).

One last Caution Sign to be aware of:  the temptation to use the framework to “fix them”.  When you learn about wounds, and start recognizing them in your own life, there will be a temptation to go to your loved one, spouse, friend, and tell them that they are “angry and lashing out because of a wound”.  There may also be a temptation to tell your loved one that the reason they can’t get through this problem is “because there is a blindspot related to a wound” that they should let you  heal.  This often does not go well for you or the person that you are hoping to “fix”. 

I hope you will watch for these Caution Signs- in yourself and those around you. Observe them. Honor them. Keep the Healing Place a Safe Place.❤️